when i was little i lived with my granny and papa for the majority of my childhood, we lived in the woods, i went to school, rode the bus home, had dinner, went to bed and did it all again the next day. my granny was ADDICTED to her v.c.r. and had tapes piled up on the coffee table of game shows and t.v. shows she hadn't gotten a chance to watch yet....after she would watch one i would put in another for her, one show we loved to watch together was Little House on the Prairie. this show was about a family who settled back in the day on the open plains, they worked together, loved each other and they were very loyal to each other to make their life work....
so i understand that this was WAY back in the day and also it was a TV show but where did everything change?
family to me are people who will always be there no matter what, they will forgive your wrongs and celebrate your rights...they will trust and be trusted, love and be loved...I'm talking brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, moms, dads, everyone...so why is it now that is all changed? where and why did things go wrong?
where did the family values go? where is the fiber of moral being that used to exist enough that they made multiple TV shows about it? this old house, little house on the prairie, growing pains, family matters, family ties...you don't see these shows or their type anymore...maybe on a "back in the day" channel...but now you have two and a half men, with two brothers and a son living together, they dog on their mom and ones a drunken whore and the working man is weak...you have family guy and south park and American Dad that all celebrate a dysfunctional home, and yes my number one favorite show, Jerry Springer has sisters having sex with their sister's husbands, pimps, whores, and all of it...so this is what we are trying to live up to these days?
maybe this is where the structured family has gone...maybe it is just something that is "back in the day" to have brothers, sisters, moms, and dads doing good by each other, not stabbing each other in the back everyday and not on speaking terms....the parents should all be ashamed of themselves for raising their children that way...for that to be acceptable is outrageous...the kids are the ones to suffer, when we fight amongst each other they see it, they hear it, they suffer....there goes mom and dad again...there goes auntie and uncle.....wont see or be able to talk to them for awhile...they don't understand, they just feel abandoned.. think of what you miss out on when this is the attitude that you are brought up with..baseball games, school plays, birthdays....moms turning their backs on their children for things that mean NOTHING...and who suffers there? the grandchildren, the sons, the daughters...EVERYONE....lets all try to go "back in the day" and make our families healthy, whole, and together again...people are going to make mistakes and make bad decisions and if wasn't for family some people would be completely alone...none of this is right...it is all very wrong, i may not have much family left but i tell you what i treasure each and every one of them and will forgive them all their wrongs and celebrate their rights...my children will know each and everyone of them and unless they are out doing hard drugs or committing serious crimes i will never keep them out of their lives....they have a right to know their family and i will never take that from them, can you imagine this...fighting over nothing that means anything really and then all of a sudden POOF out of nowhere a train runs into them and they die...where does that leave you? broken hearted that someone special in your life never really knew how much you loved them because you turned your back...is that what you want? when my mother died i couldn't apologize enough to her about being a horrible teenager...what would have happened if i hadn't been there, when my granny died i was living in Detroit with my sperm donor and before i left her last words to me were "until you change your ways i don't want to talk to you" that was the last thing this woman who raised me and taught me life lessons and how to cook, love, and be a good person said to me...i will never forget that.
that is my promise to you my wonderful babies...you will know your aunts, uncles, grandmas and grandpas, your sisters, brothers and everyone in between unless they choose otherwise...and shame on the ones who have...you know who you are...YOU choose not to know your beautiful granddaughters and i hope you can sleep at night knowing it is by your choice they will never know you...love is love plain and simple and who is to say who can love who? who has the power to take that love away? can you really live with yourself for making that choice for them? think about it....
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