the stick in my ass....

     i dont know what makes me sicker...parents that suck or kids that suck.....


     some say that i have a "stick in my ass" when it comes to parenting and that is ok...its your opinion, i would rather you say that i have a stick in my ass because some parents could use my stick to beat their kids....


     from time to time i check the facebook page of one Tyler Ontis.  tyler is the son of todd's former wife and todd adopted him and gave him his name, a great life, and lots of chances.  i came into this kid's life when he was 13 and he was ok...he was polite, and good to bradley todd's youngest son so i could never understand todd's frustration with him, i would call him on his weekends with the kids and he always sounded so worn out and frustrated....it was ALWAYS because of tyler doing this or that...i could tell he was a handful....he never really acted out when i was around but that was probably because they lived in kalamazoo and i in mt. pleasant so i didnt really get around much. 

     by the time i was pregnant with elizabeth and todd was moving up here with me i really saw what this kid was about....heidi would call todd wringing her hands saying she couldnt handle him anymore and todd needed to step in....i told him just to give the kid a chance and maybe tough love was what he needed....14 years too late...nothing we did helped this kid...we gave him rules, guidelines of what was accepted and what isnt....chores, and a good life with lots of opportunity.  todd even got him a job the last summer tyler was ever here...

     well because this kid has never been made to own up to anything in his life, he fucked up his job, was running his mouth, lieing all the time, and just making us miserable. we sat him down and explained that lieing wouldnt be tolerated, nor putting his hands on his little brother, or his disrespectful mouth and we gave him the choice...if you dont like it here and dont want to be here...then dont....tyler came back for liz's first bday party, and that was the last time he was ever here....

      heidi for some reason needs to be this kid's best friend, no disciple, no consequences for actions and everything is given to him....he has a cell phone, he gets to go hang out, he has a nice comfy life...thats why i am convinced he is going to be locked up before his 18th birthday....his facebook page is full of weed this, weed that.....fuck this and fuck that....my moms a bitch, shes pissed because i hit bradley (who is 7)

     for some reason the family seems to bring him to the xmas party they have every year even though we dont even talk to the kid anymore and this year was the best.....he comes up to me and hands me a rolling paper and proudly tells me thats what he uses when he smokes his weed....GREAT PARENTING!!!
i told him to get out of my face....he quickly retreated....

     i feel bad for so many people in this equation.....he is never going to amount to anything in life, IF he passes high school i will be super surprised...he doesnt care about anything and thinks he is invincible because there have been very few consequences to his actions and i think the only have been when he was here...i feel for bradley...poor guy, he is such a loving little boy and if we had him more than we do he would be even better...but sadly he lives with heidi and this asshole of a 16 year old brother who is way less of a role model....i feel bad for todd whom i am sure feels like a failure when it comes to this kid...but really what kind of an impact can he have on him when he was only here 8 days a month...he pays monthly for this kid to eat, have clothes, and live and tyler could care less...last todd heard from him is a phone call saying "can i use the snowmobiles"  ya right tyler you get NOTHING...EVER

    im not saying that i am the best parent in the world by any means but i can promise this, my kids that i raise are going somewhere...and not to a jail cell where this kid is going....i just dont get it, todd is the best thing that ever happened to this kid and he shit on him time and time again....well with the recent fall out of some of the family and our family we wont have to endure his face anymore and when he is 18 we are no longer financially or legally responsible for him or his stupid actions...two years....

    when your friends are telling you that you should pay as much attention to school as you do your "love" of your girlfriend and wether you will see her today or not....maybe you should pay attention...but i guess he never really had a chance since his mother is his best friend and not a parent....let this be an example to those of you out there who feel like they dont want their kids to hate them...if they dont at sometime in their lives than you arnt doing your job and they are going to turn out such as the example above....i think maybe you need my stick....